James 1:19 "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry".
Quick to hear - It is here where we are taught to listen and do. Unfortunately in today's world, social media and texting limits a big from of communication like it used to be, to where we could really listen to someone and not try to assume what they mean. But it is here where we learn that we should remain whom we are in conversation where we can let someone speak their burdens and have trust as their Pastor.
Slow to speak - How many of us have been in a conversation where we have been cut off and talked over multiple times (Proverbs 21:23 "Those who guard their mouths and their tounges keep themselves from calamity") Most of our misunderstanding come when people are not suing the right words at the right time. This is where we can seek God and pray to have a aslow and steady conversation and to be understanding.
Slow to become angry - one thing that we can not do as leaders is have a lack of self control. ist is easy to let loose and lash out when we are angry. But how much strength would be shown us when we can keep the cool and prove we have great understanding. (Proverbs 14:29 "Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick tempered displays folly.")
This is probably one of the most substantial teachings that I live out today and have for a few years. It has done a glorious amount of work in our marriage as well as in our everyday outings. If you are using all the above as mentioned your allowing you strength of Christ to protect not on you, but your marriage, children, church and congregation, and all of the people whom you come into contact with. Sounds like a great plan to be a lot more like Jesus!